Aap Beti

Autobiography of Sheikhul Hadith Maulana Muhammad Zakariyya (rahmatullahi 'alayh)

Saturday, August 05, 2006

Words of Wisdom regarding marriage

Sheikhul Hadeeth (rahmatullahi 'alayh) reminds us here of the ridiculous nature of the customs that we have attached to the islamic wedding ceremony, especially those of us from the Indian Subcontinent. This is a reminder that riya during such functions is against the Sunnah of our Beloved Nabi (sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam) and that going against the Sunnah is not to be taken lightly at all...

Rasulluah Sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam also said: "That nikah has more blessings in it, in which least expenditure is incurred." It is a pity that we have through our customs made it the most difficult thing. No one knows how many salaahs are left unperformed because of it. Some times a greater museebat [calamity] is this: that the bride's party is sent off just at a time when salaah is to be performed, as a result of which the bride, bridegroom and the whole party miss the salaah. When that is the beginning of the union, is it any wonder that the end of it is arguments, disputes and corruption?

Ulema have written that the child that is conceived at a time of salaah (which is not performed) will tend to be disobedient to parents and troublesome to them. May Allah guide us and set us aright!

A worse museebat is that as a result of our customs, girls remain unmarried till late in life, the reason being that financial arrangements cannot be made. Even worse that this - often money has to be borrowed on interest, about which the Quran has passed a verdict that it is tantamount to a declaration of war from Allah and His Rasul Sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam.

Who is there that can survive in a battle against Allah and His Rasul Sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam? Often the excuse is brought that if all these things are not done, then our honour and dignity will be lost. I have seen many Elders have their marriages and the marriages of their loved ones performed according to the sunnat in utmost simplicity, without all this nonsensical rigmarole, but without any dishonour at all!!



Anonymous Anonymous said...

Assalamoalaikum Warahmatullah

Alhamdulillah, this is a very beneficial blog. My mother and father have both read 'Aap Beti' in its entirety but I have not as yet done so. It's really nice to be able to read little excerpts from it, and I look forward to reading more in the near future.

Jazakallah Khairun

Fee amaanillah

5:46 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

HOW is one to approach ones parents and persuad them that a lavish nikkah is not required, and delying a nikkah over the worries of the costs of the nikkah can be discussed with the other party with out losing face?
due to this difficulty a sisters nikkah may be delayed and her parents are in worry.

is there a solution?
dua requested for this sister and her family.
Wa'alikum As'salaam.

3:52 am  
Blogger seeker of spiritual progress said...

Assalamu 'alaikum wa rahmatullah

Unfortunately, I am not the right person to ask as I have not the knowledge to answer your question.

However, I strongly recommend that you refer your question to Mufti Muhammad Ibn Adam of Darul Iftaa Leicester, who can be contacted on the following number between 6pm-8pm Mondays to Fridays:

01162513937 (+44 from abroad)

I regret not being able to help further and pray that Allah makes it easy for all of us Inshaa allah. Aameen.

8:46 pm  

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