Words of Wisdom regarding marriage
Sheikhul Hadeeth (rahmatullahi 'alayh) reminds us here of the ridiculous nature of the customs that we have attached to the islamic wedding ceremony, especially those of us from the Indian Subcontinent. This is a reminder that riya during such functions is against the Sunnah of our Beloved Nabi (sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam) and that going against the Sunnah is not to be taken lightly at all...
Rasulluah Sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam also said: "That nikah has more blessings in it, in which least expenditure is incurred." It is a pity that we have through our customs made it the most difficult thing. No one knows how many salaahs are left unperformed because of it. Some times a greater museebat [calamity] is this: that the bride's party is sent off just at a time when salaah is to be performed, as a result of which the bride, bridegroom and the whole party miss the salaah. When that is the beginning of the union, is it any wonder that the end of it is arguments, disputes and corruption?
Ulema have written that the child that is conceived at a time of salaah (which is not performed) will tend to be disobedient to parents and troublesome to them. May Allah guide us and set us aright!
A worse museebat is that as a result of our customs, girls remain unmarried till late in life, the reason being that financial arrangements cannot be made. Even worse that this - often money has to be borrowed on interest, about which the Quran has passed a verdict that it is tantamount to a declaration of war from Allah and His Rasul Sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam.
Who is there that can survive in a battle against Allah and His Rasul Sallallahu 'alayhi wasallam? Often the excuse is brought that if all these things are not done, then our honour and dignity will be lost. I have seen many Elders have their marriages and the marriages of their loved ones performed according to the sunnat in utmost simplicity, without all this nonsensical rigmarole, but without any dishonour at all!!